Having a mental health problem can cause you to have low self-esteem, which can make it more difficult to cope or take steps to increase your self-esteem.

Few thought habits can be so destructive in daily life as perfectionism.

“Know thyself” is an old saying passed down through the ages, to encourage us to engage in self-exploration. Usually the most well-adjusted and happiest people I meet are people who have gone through this exercise. It isn’t just about knowing your strengths and weaknesses, but also opening yourself up to new opportunities, new thoughts, trying out something new, new viewpoints, and new friendships.

Keep an affirmation journal in which you write positive, loving statements about yourself. Repeat those affirmations daily when you awaken and before you go to sleep.

Past issues and traumas can keep you trapped in low self-esteem. Seek the support of a trained counselor to help you heal the wounds of the past.

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I see it in my inbox almost every day as people share their challenges with me.

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So go outside of your comfort zone regularly. Don’t expect anything, just tell yourself that you will try something out.

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Next, start to write down evidence that challenges these negative beliefs: "I am really good at cryptic crosswords" or "My sister calls for a chat every week". Write down other positive things you know to be true about yourself, such as "I am thoughtful" or "I am a great cook" or "I am someone that others trust". Also write down good things that other people say about you.

Great ideas – thank you! Here’s one more – when you talk to yourself – pretend you are talking to your best friend. No more putting yourself down! Encourage yourself, Support yourself. Be kind to yourself – just they way you would when talking to your best friend….

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It is not always easy to do. Or even to know what the right thing is. But keeping a focus on it and doing it as best you can makes big difference both in the results you get and for how you think about yourself.

Not sure where to start? Take a look at our pages on how to seek help for a mental health problem.

Plan for a trip or adventure so that you have something exciting to look forward to. Just the planning process with make you feel engaged and purposeful.

So if you want to feel better about yourself, try some of these things:

Getting too little or too much sleep can have a big impact on how you feel.

4. Write down 3 things in the evening that you can appreciate about yourself.

Asking for help and support isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of determination and courage. Asking for help means you are ready for positive change.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson

Sometimes it can be hard to identify what the cause of your low self-esteem is. It might be something that you’ve never really thought about, or maybe it’s too difficult to determine when it first started. Whether or not you know exactly what the cause is, there are steps that you can take to build your confidence and bring your self-esteem up to where it belongs. 

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Perfection is simply unattainable for any of us. Let it go. You’re never going to be perfect. You’re never going to have the perfect body, the perfect life, the perfect relationship, the perfect children, or the perfect home. We revel in the idea of perfection, because we see so much of it in the media. But that is simply an artificial creation of society. It doesn’t exist.

Well, today I would like to share 12 of the most powerful tips and habits I have found for improving and maintaining my own self-esteem. Even through the rough days and tough months.

Anger is often a response to feelings of low self-worth and despair. Find appropriate outlets for your feelings. Express them to a supportive person before they turn to anger.

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Even the seemingly most confident people may feel insecure deep down. To feel nervous is not necessarily a bad thing.

Or you may simply prefer to use this variation at the end of your day when you have some free time for yourself to spare.

And then later on you can do the same thing a few more times and improve your own performance.

Aim for effort rather than perfection. Some people get held back by their own pressure to be perfect. They lose out because they don't try. If you think, "I won't audition for the play because I probably won't get the lead," it's guaranteed that role will go to someone else.

This is a very simple and fun habit. And if you spend just two minutes on it every day for a month then it can make huge difference.

How to improve self-esteem

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These things don’t have to be big things.

Even if you focus on being kinder towards other people (and yourself) and on replacing a perfectionism habit it will be hard to keep your self-esteem up if the most important influences in your life drag it down on a daily or weekly basis.

Or come up with a phrase or word that you like that stops the train of the thought driven by the inner critic.

It’s just as important to take something away from the mistakes you make in life. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it simply means you made a mistake (like everyone does). Mistakes are an opportunity for learning and for growth, if only we push ourselves out of the self-pity or negative self-talk we wallow in after one, and try and see it from someone else’s eyes.

Be there for someone who needs support, leadership, and guidance. Their respect will add to your self-respect.

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When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light. We also feel less able to take on the challenges life throws at us.