If you feel under pressure to keep saying ‘yes’, then contact Carers UK, Counsel and Care, or Crossroads Care for advice or help with respite care to enable you to recharge your batteries.
There are lots of practical things you can do to support someone who is ready to seek help. For example:
Caring for others is often an important part of keeping up relationships with people close to you. It can even bring you closer together.
People with mental health problems sometimes experience a crisis, such as breaking down in tears, having a panic attack, feeling suicidal, or experiencing their own or a different reality.
You may need to do some research, like finding out about the state pension, National Insurance top ups, pension credits, and buying an annuity.
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Caring for others can be rewarding, such as seeing your grandchildren taking their first steps or sharing a laugh with a neighbour. However, there can be stresses and strains along the way.
17. “Understand that sometimes I can’t hang out, but not because I don’t want to. Accept that it’s in fact an illness and I’m not making an excuse.” — Shannon Trevino
These are some things that can cause worry as you get older:
For online support and to find your local branch, visit their website.
You're not alone; talk to someone you trust. Sharing a problem is often the first step to recovery.
Citizens Advice provides free, independent and confidential advice for a range of problems as well as providing information on your rights and responsibilities.
Good sleep doesn’t just mean lots of sleep, as the amount of sleep that each person needs is different. The Mental Health Foundation’s booklet ‘Sleep Well’ suggests ways that you can improve your sleep. You can also talk to your GP about sleep problems, as they may be able to change your medication or suggest solutions to other health issues that may be keeping you awake.
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Always make time for your own hobbies and interests. If you are a busy carer, you must still find time for your own interests in order to look after your own wellbeing.
 Cornah, D. (2006). “Cheers? Understanding the relationship between alcohol and mental health.”
Your friendship may change for a while or it may change permanently. However, it doesn't have to vanish. Nor does it have to take over your life. Underneath everything that is going on, you're still the people who became friends in the first place. We all have our ups and downs and need the support of our friends.
3. “Don’t tell me to put my big girl panties, but do tell me you support me and love me anyway.” — Andrea Heer
Share your observations with your friend. Focus on being nonjudgmental, compassionate and understanding. Use these “I” (instead of “you”) comments to get the conversation started.
Physical activity can be as effective as anti-depressant medication in treating mild to moderate depression, which is why exercise therapyis available on prescription in many areas. Information is available at www.nhs.uk, or your GP may be able to help.
Say "Why don’t you tell me how you are feeling?" rather than "I can see you are feeling very low". Try to keep your language neutral. Give the person time to answer and try not to grill them with too many questions.
"She has just been diagnosed as being bi-polar. When she drinks she gets very upset and angry so we rarely invite her to join us when alcohol is involved. I also make more of an effort to listen."
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Friendship is a crucial element in protecting our mental health. We need to talk to our friends and we want to listen when our friends want to talk to us. Our friends can keep us grounded and can help us get things in perspective. It is worth putting effort into maintaining our friendships and making new friends. Friends form one of the foundations of our ability to cope with the problems that life throws at us.
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Friendship takes time, and sometimes effort. It is easy to lose touch with people, especially if their life seems too busy for you or if you are feeling down. Having friends is a positive way to maintain good emotional health, even when doing so may sometimes seem like hard work.
Being active doesn’t necessarily mean going to the gym; t’ai chi, Pilates, gardening, dog walking, dancing, or being part of a walking group are all good ways to get some exercise. Being active doesn’t have to cost much money. Many councils offer activities at lower rates for older people.
If your work or career is a major part of your life, consider how to deal with the changes to:
 Antonucci, T. C. (2001). Social relations: An examination of social networks, social support, and sense of control. In J. E. Birren (Ed.), Handbook of the psychology of aging (5th ed., pp. 427–453). San Diego, CA: Academic Press.
A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health.
activity and quality of life in community-dwelling older adults with impaired mobility, physical disability and/or multi-morbidity: A meta-analysis. Ageing Research Reviews, 11, 136–149.
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